The Senior Friend Finder

Sex begins between the ears.

Do you know the connection between saying “I love you” and sizzling senior sex? Read on to discover the secrets.

Say it often to each other, say it in front of others, and especially say it in front of your children and grand children.

Be a good model for positive affirming relationships all your life. My dad was in a coma for days at the end of a three-year battle with Alzheimer’s disease. On a special night, mom prayed and told daddy and God it was OK for dad to go home to be with the Lord. After “Amen,” mom kissed him and told him she loved him. We left the nursing home and a few hours later dad went home.

Get it! “I Love You,” to the end.

The seventh deadly sin of aging is to take loved ones and specifically your spouse for granted and stop the flow of “I love you.” Failure to sustain the steady flow of affirming affectionate words hurts the one who stops as much as the one who no longer hears those powerful words.

If you stop your soul shrivels. Emotions dry up like a petrified prune. Arteries harden and so do feelings. You become a spiritual stone…. breathing and eating, but not loving….not really living.

There is a secret within the secret of telling spouses you love them.

The inner secret is to love spouses the way they want to be loved. Couples who have happy long-term marriages learn this early in their relationships. It requires listening to and honoring what your spouse considers to be loving attitudes and acts.

It is the old jock honoring his wife’s wish to attend the ballet because she took dance as a child and always had the dream of becoming a ballerina. It is the sophisticated wife who will go to the Daytona 500 because her husband rebuilt his first jalopy and won a local race.